A Great Time to Reflect

It has been a while since I last blogged and I wish I had written more.often. We are all doing our best is a motto I share and realize I need to apply it to myself as well. This past weekend I celebrated the Jewish New Year with my family ( minus my two big boys who are in Oklahoma, not many Jews there :-)). I was not that excited about going to synagogue. I didn't want to get dressed up and feel like everyone else looked better and tried to hide behind I'm a good person so why do I need to go. The truth is everyone goes for their own special reasons and it is not a fashion show. I went with my family because that is a way to honor who I am. I was reminded its always a good time to reflect and reset.

I have received many messages over the past year thanking me for my candidness as a reminder that looking at others lives from the outside are not always what they seem. I could have won an Oscar for my incredible performance as a happy wife and perfect family before my divorce. I have terrible anxiety that has crippled me in the past but I have not let anyone see the struggle. We all struggle. Life can be very difficult at times and thats when we have to remember to breath. We are all just trying to figure it out. We make good decisions and really poor ones too. Its ok! Often times we judge others as a defense mechanism. The truth is we need to reflect inwards instead of making judgements. We all have the ability to change and to set goals.

Stop scrolling social media with envy ( I am extremely guilty ) of some perfect life because there is no perfect life. Nobody posts the bad times. Look ahead and set a reasonable goal for yourself and try. Trying will not kill you and failure makes you stronger. Do something different, join a group you would not normally join. Have lunch with an acquaintance. Take a chance. Don't you owe yourself that?